Diving a bit deeper into our ability to create and attract the life we want through our magnetism, I begin our journey by introducing the two creative energies available in each one of us. We look at the individual energies, their characteristics, and how the two coming together, well-balanced and matured, can result in our outer world reflecting and magnetising the harmony and abundance of our inner relationship between the two aspects of ourselves.
I came to learn about them through the labels of ‘masculine‘ and ‘feminine‘. While masculine energy represents consciousness (awareness) & structure, feminine energy represents ‘creation’ and flow.
While I am calling these two energies masculine energy and feminine energy, you could also have heard of them being referred to as yin and yang, creativity and logic, left and right brain, positive and negative magnetic polarities, active and passive, penetrative and receptive, and many other labels used to describe the same concept.
The one energy is awareness, action and structure-based, while the other is creative and emotion-based. As with quantum physics, where observation is the key to wave particles to respond in creative manner: Creation wouldn’t exist without Consciousness to hold and witness it. Both are needed for creativity and magnetics. Just as with masculine and feminine, left and right brain, and yin and yang.
This is by no means declaring one more superior than the other and it is not a gender debate. We’re simply inspecting the nature of the equally important energies. Because I was taught using the ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ labels, that is what I will use here as that is where my highest understanding on the subject of electromagnetism lays.
Both masculine and feminine energy are within each one of us. Usually, there is one more predominant energy, but ideally, the first prize is to work to balance them both and work with the mature aspects accordingly.
My Journey with My Own Electromagnetism
My personal journey with my inner masculine energy and feminine energy for electromagnetism is still one of progress, as it is for everyone.
We never stop discovering and learning. Though today I can look back at the path I’ve walked and see clearly the processes that were unfolding to develop and heal each one, and how it then reflected back to me outside of myself in my reality to match my inner shifts. This happens to everyone along the way. Your magnetics won’t change without your reality adjusting to match.
I share my perspective with you to assist in your own recognition and journey toward your most healthy self.
Much like the reproductive creation process between a male and female body to create a child, so too do the energies work for manifestation. The masculine penetrates with outward action and forward motion, while the feminine surrenders, opens, flows, and receives.
While I am in a female body, the large majority of my younger years were spent in what you could call masculine dysfunction.
Masculine energy is action-based and knows how to get things done in the world. It’s logical for the most part. Masculine energy surges forth with action and penetrates the world to create.
Mature and healed masculine energy moves with purpose and swift effectiveness, not using itself without a good reason or uncalculated movement, and doesn’t waste its energy in the overglorification of busy-ness.
Unhealed and immature, it runs wild in doing mode without any oversight to what it’s doing and kind of resembles a chicken running around without a head. Go, go, go, do, do, do. NON STOP!
For What?
This was how I spent my 20s and early 30s. No overview of what I was doing, and no regard for the consequences. Mostly, I was self-destructive. As a result, I was not a good bet for business or relationships.
I didn’t care much about anything other than myself and just chased cheap thrills. I was here, there, and everywhere. Bouncing from one shallow adventure to the next. And it was so incredibly fun and exciting.
Until my inner feminine energy activated and showed me what enrichment and fulfilment looked like.
It was only in 2014 that — without being aware of what was happening — I switched and my feminine energy came forward. At the time, I was not able to find work, had no money, and experienced an extremely cold winter that sent me into a depression that was the catalyst and doorway for my feminine energy to come through for the first time, albeit immaturely and in full dysfunction.
The feminine needs stillness, time, and space to come forward. And it’s always in the stillness of winter that she steps forward. Astrologically, this is retrograde season which is conducive to internal work and when the planets all go direct and our lived experience becomes more externally focused, and the things we’ve been working on internally come in for landing in our lives — then the masculine steps forward and into action mode. By the time the next retrograde season comes, my inner masculine is exhausted and needs rest. And some how, I always find myself in circumstances where I am in bed for days on end and just rolling in and out of sleep. It’s then that her voice — our intuition — becomes audible again, and where she let’s me know where the changes need to be made for the next cycle. And then we get to work, internally, quietly, while my inner masculine rests.
There’s a reason it’s been called a man’s world, and there’s a reason for the term ‘woman’s intuition’.
The Masculine
As mentioned before, masculine energy governs structure, and most of the physical world we see around us is masculine in its nature. The masculine energy actioned it into being. The buildings, schooling system, technology, science, time…. it was masculine energy that figured out how everything works, and it’s done a good job in some areas, and not so good with the lack of regard for our planet and its people in other areas. There’s been a lot of war and destruction in the quest to build empires and conquer dreams.
We and those who came before us have been born and raised in a world built from immature masculine energy. The ultimate perpetrator.
This is not to say those who did the doing were only in male bodies either. There were and are female bodies stuck in their immature masculine energy too. Like me, up until my inner feminine woke up.
The Feminine
Much like the female body that is the incubator for souls to manifest physically into this world through her, energetically, the feminine is connected to all of existence and all of life, in all timelines, in all dimensions and all universes.
Everything around and in between. The feminine energy sees and is everything. She’s everything that moves and feels. She too, is life and death. She too, is creation and destruction. She is the new moon and the full moon. She is Venus and she is Lilith. She is dark and light. Matured and healed, she is the encompassing womb that loves and nurtures us and the beings and planet around her.
She cares and considers all, but not to her own detriment. Because she knows the value each element of life brings, and she knows the success of the gifts of life is dependent on the contribution and collaboration of all in the environment.
She feels, laughs, cries, flows, receives, and sees everything all at once. Feminine energy is able to peer down unseen passages that whisper messages from across the fabric of space and time.
The feminine is the heart, while the masculine is the head.
Right brain and left brain, if you wish.
Both are needed. In Balance.
While masculine energy is logical, it does have some emotion, but it’s nothing compared to the ocean of emotion that feminine energy is. And while feminine energy contains some logic, it’s no match for the logic of the masculine.
Feminine energy without its masculine counterpart to balance out the emotion would probably implode the universe, while masculine energy without feminine energy would probably explode the universe. Of course, this statement is merely my opinion.
Unbalanced and immature feminine energy is manipulative and is the ultimate victim. It’s super ultra extra emotion. Tantrums and drama to the max. And it’s all everyone else’s fault.
“Look what you made me do! You did this to me!”
We can see how the immature masculine as the perpetrator and the immature feminine as the victim make a well-matched pair, as can be seen in many relationship dynamics all over.
As previously mentioned, the first prize is to mature both aspects and bring them together to work together with each other’s strengths.
While these immature masculine and feminine characteristics are familiar to me along my journey, I like to think most of it was played out in my 20s and early 30s. I still catch glimpses every now and then, very subtly, and admittedly, I was much more comfortable in my masculine energy. These days I feel more balanced between them and I appreciate both of their magic deeply.
Shift
When my shift into my feminine came, there were definitely some wild emotions flying around, but I was more in a state of feminine dysfunction. If masculine dysfunction looks like non-stop doing without purpose or regard, what does feminine dysfunction look like?
Well… mostly, it’s laying around in bed all day eating chocolate and not doing anything with life, because what’s the point? We’re just going to die anyway!
This is where I found myself. Severe apathy for absolutely everything, a lack of willingness to put energy into anything, I just wanted to connect to the cosmos and live as a magical being of light without money near a beach until I transcended this life and returned home to the stars.
My head was in the clouds for around two years while my feminine drove my life alone as my inner masculine settled into severe laziness after a number of disappointments in the physical world. He needed some time to lick his wounds and had lost all self-confidence after not being able to find me work. To be fair, when my inner feminine took the helm with her grand cosmic connection to all of life, it also left my inner masculine feeling completely useless and not needed. I emasculated my own inner masculine and didn’t make space for him to co-exist.
Realising you deserve better.
My turning point to begin to find a balance between the two came when I failed to find work and was faced with leaving Cape Town to go back and live at my parents’ house in Johannesburg again.
I cried my heart out because I just didn’t want to leave Cape Town. And then, my inner masculine finally showed up again.
When my inner feminine absolutely refused to live under those conditions for a moment longer and had decided what she wanted, he came forward and actually took some physical action toward the magnetising work for me.
My inner masculine sat and updated my CV, sent it out to agencies, set up profiles on employment websites, and really did his best. And I got a job. I was to aupair for a woman who is now one of my best friends and help her with her children.
It was a start. And since then, at each point the more my inner feminine recognises that I deserve more, and has taught me to regard, love myself, and believe in myself and what I’m worth, the more ‘he’ shows up to get it for me in the outside world. He is my inner warrior, protector, and provider.
Electromagnetism is a wonderful dance between the two… Our inner feminine feels into what we need and want in life based on us constantly reaching higher for ourselves, and our inner masculine then steps up to go get it.
He penetrates, and she receives his gifts and devotion with open arms and open heart, in appreciation.
Developing And Maturing
Learning to develop our inner masculine and inner feminine also benefits our external relationships as we make the shifts to mature internally. It’s quite powerful to witness the way it works.
If we’re having an ‘issue’ with a male in the outside reflection, whatever they’re ‘doing’ is what you are directed to shift internally.
If there’s resistance or conflict with a female in our outside world, it’s a signal of what development could be made with our inner feminine.
As with all of the other manifestation principles I have shared with you, like attracts like, so what you see on the outside is a reflection of the inside.
This puts the power back in our hands, along with some responsibility and accountability for what we have pulled into our experience.
With enough work on ourselves, making enough shifts internally, we can attract the nutritious and delicious experiences we seek from life on the outside, which are just a reflection of our inner state.
Magnetism: Like Attracts Like
We attract that which is on the same frequency as us.
Understand that, and implement enough change within yourself to be your best and do your best for yourself, and your outside world will transform and show you your own self-worth and value with the same worth and value externally.
Invest in yourself and build an inner relationship with the two aspects of yourself.
Tools used to harness each energy when we need them vary. As far as body movement goes, anything fast-paced filled with repetitive drills summons our masculine energy.
Think CrossFit, gym workouts, or for me at the time it was roller derby. The feminine energy loves flow and grace, so activities such as yoga and dance bring her out.
Creative activities that work for the masculine are building and putting things together. Figuring out how things work, fiddling with more technical things.
For the inner feminine, it’s sewing, drawing, painting, baking, crocheting, etc.
Aligning Your Electromagnetics
To align with your inner masculine, it’s necessary to take action toward it while at the same time, the inner feminine aligns emotionally and energetically.
We use both the respective energies to attract what we desire to bring into our life. Add to the mix some cultivation of your mind with intentional thought, making self-love and care your top priority, and the healthy ability to let go, surrender, flow, and be open to receiving, and you’ve got yourself a winning formula to magnetise everything you’ve ever wanted.
Relationships, clients, material items, health… all of it.
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I’d also love to hear from you about what living in today’s society has done for you where the vast majority of the way life works asks the feminine to abandon her natural ways of moving through the world, in favour of masculine hustle culture. I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that many female business owners burn out because we are meant to work in different ways to masculine polarity.
